WHAT IS A EULOGY

The eulogy can be delivered by a clergy member, a family member, or a friend of the deceased. Instead of a single traditional eulogy, you might choose to have several people share their memories. There's also a growing trend of inviting attendees to stand and share a memory of the deceased, which can be particularly meaningful at smaller or more informal gatherings.

Be creative when considering how to share memories of your loved one. It's best to avoid having someone who didn't know them well give the eulogy. While some have mastered the art of delivering heartfelt and personalized eulogies, others might speak in more general terms or turn the moment into a sermon about life and death. If a religious sermon brings comfort to your family, don't hesitate to include one. However, ensure that someone else—or several people—also share personalized reflections in addition to the sermon.

Preparing for a eulogy involves careful thought and reflection to honor the life of the person who has passed. Here are some steps to help you prepare:

Reflect on the Person's Life:

Spend time thinking about the person's life, their character, accomplishments, and what made them unique. Consider their values, passions, and how they impacted others.

Gather Memories:

Collect stories, anecdotes, and memories from family members and friends. These personal insights can provide a fuller picture of the person's life and add warmth to the eulogy.

Organize Your Thoughts:

Outline the key points you want to cover, such as the person's background, their relationships, and memorable moments. You might structure it chronologically or by themes that represent different aspects of their life.

Write the Eulogy:

Write a draft that combines your thoughts, memories, and any quotes or readings you want to include. Keep it personal, honest, and respectful. Aim for a length of 5-10 minutes, depending on the setting.

Practice Your Delivery:

Practice reading the eulogy out loud, ideally in front of someone you trust. This will help you get comfortable with the material and adjust the pacing or tone as needed.

Prepare for Emotions:

It's natural to feel emotional while delivering a eulogy. Consider having a copy printed out or notes on hand in case you get overwhelmed. If needed, ask someone else to be ready to step in and finish the reading for you.

Involve Others:

If you're uncomfortable speaking alone, you might invite others to share in delivering the eulogy or to contribute with their own short reflections.

Be Authentic:

Above all, be yourself. A eulogy is a personal tribute, and speaking from the heart will resonate with those who hear it.

By following these steps, you can create a meaningful and memorable eulogy that honors your loved one's life.